It’s a played out thing to hear so often when someone views the actions of others being unlike their own. “That should be common sense.” Common sense doesn’t even seem clear to me how a theory so general of the world could be the basis for any knowledge we could assume someone else also has. Our ability to perceive, understand and judge things are all philosophically linked.

Common sense would say that it is not smart to buy things we can’t afford, do harmful drugs, binge drink and many other things that are detrimental to self-preservation. But what if I told you what may seem common sense to you is not common practice? Would it give you a little more patience with others that don’t see things the same way as you? Could it change your world? Influence others?

“Common sense is neither common nor sense.” – Jim Taylor

Things that distance us

A video I watched yesterday that intended to make a parody of situations where at first glance you’d think something different than what wasn’t obvious. One displayed a group of women out to eat lunch while a man pulls up in a convertible with what seems like an attractive blonde in the passenger seat. The woman was visibly perturbed. The camera pans to the man petting his bosses pedigree show dog with a comically long amount of blonde hair hanging from either side of its head. At the end of the clip were the words, “Don’t judge too quickly.”

All of these mechanisms of judgment result in creating a psychological distance between two people and decrease the amount of deep meaningful connection that is possible with vulnerability. What you think is common sense is not someone else’s common practice so give them the benefit of the doubt.

The world is counting on you to make a difference.