It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle of every day life. Too easy. In fact I’d say this took over my mental state for years during and after college. Striving to come up with the next best thing in business and life. Blah, blah, blah… everywhere on the internet we read about how we need to be more mindful and in the moment.
BUT WHEN IS THE LAST TIME WE DID ANY OF THESE THINGS? NEVER.
It is cool to read about how our lives could change. We move on to answering a myriad of notifications our friendly technological lives demand. I spend some time learning how to hack my growth and development instead of spending time reading.
Beginning with an honest assessment of my mind state during a three month period.
A few things surfaced:
- There’s a state that I identified with as my “natural habitat” where I’ll let my mind wander off to whatever distant land it desires.
- After this begins instead of stopping it I’d instead encourage the digression to seek deeper meaning from every movement, decision and neural pathway that activated.
- New revelations about the reasons behind my actions or inhibitions became obvious.
- External dialogue was necessary for making these discoveries concrete.
Since my mind receives a lot of punishment for getting out of line, the freedom was glorious when I finally said to it, “Go ahead and wander.”
A trusted mentor was key in helping me to understand the different stages of processing new information that lends itself to action. There’s a period of time where the overload phase lead to my paralysis. I was inputting too much new content to have a use for it. Then, spending too much time analyzing possible outcomes to take action on any particular one.
It is a conundrum of sorts to know too much because the more complicated the understanding is the less likely we are to take the risks necessary to tackle those short or even long term gorillas. In my natural habitat, I tend to become curious on a particular topic, research it until I can’t take anymore, shut down for a period of time to process, revisit to seek potential outcomes then nine times out of ten shut down the idea altogether.
WOW THAT WAS A WASTE! OR WAS IT?
This is part of the discovery phase that I’ve learned myself to get into over and over again. Being a 20-something means that this is thumbs up behavior not something to be afraid of.
However, there’s training to left to do so I lighten the load more on my research phase so that pining through potential outcomes takes much less time.
A friend recently advocated the importance of quitting early and often when there’s no viability for a new paradigm. There’s a lot that applied to my understanding of the natural habitat concept and how I’m retraining myself.
Your friends and mentors are key to helping you reflect on you in your natural habitat. Try it.